It is not.
A minimum of three months. If the attraction is real, it will survive three months of her being single and you being single. If it doesn't survive that, it was just adrenaline and secrecy. my friends girlfriend becomes my girlfriend
I know how this sounds. I know the judgment you’re already passing. I would have passed it too, six months ago. But life isn't a sitcom with a laugh track covering the awkward moments. Sometimes, it’s just a quiet room, two people looking at each other, realizing the person they’re both supposed to love isn’t the right one. It is not
If she’s unhappy, tell her to break up with him— not for you, but for herself. If she breaks up with him cleanly, without you in the wings, you have a chance. If it doesn't survive that, it was just
that moves beyond platonic banter. Navigating the Transition
(Is the friendship or the romance more important right now?)